Here are 3 signs it is time to make a shift in your life and 3 ways to kick your butt back in gear.
1. What used to work just doesn’t anymore.
Ever had that euphoric feeling that everything you put energy towards starts growing or goes exactly according to plan? It takes very little energy to get it done, and to outsiders looking in it seems like you just have a “magic touch.” You start feeling like a master of this trade, and others start coming to you for guidance. You wonder, “when did I become a guru?” Everything is amazing, until it’s not anymore.
All of the sudden it takes you twice as much work to get focused, get the work done, get results, and you start wondering, “Am I even good at this?” Self-doubt starts trickling in and playing its narcissistic head games.
2. Oh where oh where has my happiness gone?
One of the first signs of being stuck in a place that you need to move out of is that you just no longer find enjoyment in the things that used to make you happy. You wonder if it’s depression, PMS, the kids, the husband, the boss, etc. You start looking everywhere outside of yourself to point to a place that is causing this unhappiness, but we often don’t pause long enough to look inside ourselves.
You’re not unhappy, you are doing too little of what sets your soul on fire.
3. Your habits start shifting.
You used to be the person that never showed up late, never missed a call, always responded to that text. Now you find yourself ignoring calls for days, showing up late, and not keeping your commitments like you used to. You find yourself canceling plans, not keeping up with your obligations, and the life that used to be so organized now seems in disarray. Everything around you seems disorganized, and you don’t know how to put it back together.
Here are 3 ways to get unstuck and get back on the trail to making your dreams a reality.
1. Identify the pain point and be willing to eliminate it.
The founder of Poo-Pourri, Suzy Batiz shares that “energy is your greatest currency.” No truer words have ever been spoken. The reason we find ourselves depleted is often because we have put too much energy in places that it should have never gone in the first place. You must identify what is taking away your valuable energy?
- Is it negative family/friends?
- Is it the job you convince yourself that you need, yet it holds you back?
- Do you have a boyfriend that treats you poorly, but you stay because it’s what you know?
- Is it your negative self-talk that you haven’t taken the time to adjust?
- Are your finances so disorganized that you feel like you are drowning, but you haven’t slowed down long enough to sit down and go through each account?
- Is it the messy house that you have been putting off and putting off, and if you could just get your house in order you would feel a little more alive?
What is in your life right now that if you removed or took care of today you would feel more free?
2. Create a simple plan for this week.
I didn’t say for this month, year, 5 years or 10 years. I said, just this week.
- If you don’t already own a calendar, get one. Mine use to weigh 7.5 pounds and came with me everywhere. This is not recommended unless you plan on visiting the chiropractor every week, ha!
- Get out a piece of paper and make 2 columns. 1st column is labeled personal and 2nd column is labeled work. Now, brain dump everything (and I don’t care if it takes 10 pages) – brain dump everything that is in your head that you need to do personally (i.e. clean the fridge, wash the dog, schedule hair appointment, work out, pick up avocados, etc.), and then work through everything on your to do list for work.
- Pick your top 5 personal and top 5 professional for that week and schedule them into your calendar (the exact date/time that you will do it). If you want to schedule in more, schedule in more. The goal here is to create within yourself the reminder that you can accomplish what you set out to accomplish.
Just removing the to-do’s from your head, and putting it on paper makes it seem more tangible and frees up much needed space for you to think more clearly.
3. Listen to a positive motivational message once a day for 1 week.
Yeah, Yeah, Yeah, who needs a bunch of hoopla when my life is falling apart? The answer is, we all do. Your subconscious mind picks up more than you would ever imagine, and you can truly reprogram the settings in your mind from negative to positive. Like attracts like. “But I am SOOO busy, how am I going to find the time for a motivational message?” The most difficult part is just pressing play. Whether it is YouTube or a podcast, there is a plethora of knowledge out there for you to re-energize your life.
Here are a few times you can play a message along with some of my personal top picks:
- Listen while you are getting ready for work in the morning.
- Listen while you are working out.
- Listen while you are cleaning, folding laundry, or cooking dinner.
- Listen on your commute to and from work.
- Listen during your lunch break.
- Listen while you are sleeping.
Here are some of my personal top picks for positive motivational podcasts:
- Fallon Taylor (Podcast)
- Terri Savelle Foy (Youtube or Podcast)
- How I Built This – Guy Raz (Podcast)
- Rachel Hollis (Podcast) – Author of Girl Wash your Face
- John Maxwell Leadership (Podcast)
Daily disciplines can change your life. And, if you are feeling stuck, it is okay to feel frustrated, irritated, unmotivated. Just decide that you are going to take one week towards your journey of doing something about it and commit it to paper. When the next week rolls around, commit to one more week.
It is time to make a shift and re-energize your life. One step at a time.